Do This Tonight, Same-Sex Couples: Play 'The Comparison Game' For Better Sex

Today we have an assignment for those of you who sleep with people who have the same thing going on in between their legs as you do. It’s an easy game that will help you get a better sense of what each of you likes in the bedroom.
Why You Should Do this Tonight
Same-sex sex can be great because you have at least a basic understanding of each other’s anatomy and how things work. The genital learning curve isn’t quite as steep when you possess the same set of parts.
On the flip side of the coin, though, it’s easier to make assumptions about what another person will like based on what you happen to like. Of course, sexin’ up another person is a different experience than sexin’ up yourself (and there are certain activities you’ve presumably never been able to do to yourself, unless you’re extremely flexible), but there’s still a sense of familiarity.
If you’ve been with said pair of matching genitals for some time, you may also have fallen into a bit of a routine with your sexy time. This happens with almost all couples, regardless of gender or orientation. We keep doing the same old things, and don’t make as much of an effort to explore new techniques.
Today’s Do This Tonight makes it easy, informative, and fun to differentiate between what each of you actually likes, and discover some new tricks in the process.
How to Do It
First, both of you should read this article, so you both know what’s up. Agree on a specific time to play (hopefully tonight, since, you know, this is our “Do This Tonight” series).
Pick a part of the body that you both like touched. Try easing your way in with a non-genital, non-breast, non-butt area, like the back or the shoulders. First, try to replicate the type of touch that your partner has responded best to historically. For example, you might start scratching their back lightly with your fingernails. Say something like, “OK, I think this is what you tend to like best.” It’s fine if your partner has some edits, like, “I usually like a little more pressure” or “I like it a bit lower.” Any bit of feedback that either of you offers helps you learn more about your bodies and what you like.
Next, try to imitate the type of touch that you like best, so for example, you might start massaging your partner’s back. Say, “and this is what I like best.” Again, your partner is free to pitch in their thoughts, like, “you usually react when I go a bit faster than that.”
Half the fun of the game is honing in on what each of you like, so keep toggling back and forth between “this is what you like” and “this is what I like.” Talk about the similarities and differences. This should feel light and playful, so feel free to banter.
Using the same setup, move on to kissing, handjobs, blowjobs, or whatever other activities are typically a part of your repertoire. You can run through all of your favourites in one supersized session, or you can divide it up and do one activity each day (Makeout Monday, Tittie Tuesday, etc).
With oral sex in particular, you may find it surprisingly tricky to replicate what you enjoy. Sometimes it’s hard to envision what the heck your partner is actually doing down there between your legs. This makes it a great opportunity to teach each other more about specific techniques that you use.
Keep in mind that there may be some instances where you turn out to be quite a bit off about what you think your partner enjoys most. You might feel a pang of embarrassment if your SO says something like, “actually, I like it much more like
this .” Whoops. This is usually due to our aforementioned tendency to get into a groove with our partners and keep doing the same thing over and over again. It’s ok to feel a little sheepish, but remind yourselves to keep returning to this game as a refresher!

Fashion Looks Awesome From The Boys This Fall 2

Skinny Sweatpants
Finally, some of them can be socially acceptable to wear outside. Now, due to the skinny silhouette, you can rock them outside of your bedroom. This edged-up pair great for more of a streetwear look, with Nikes, or with an androgynous shoe and a no-makeup look. Very cute if you show a little skin and wear a tight crop top – bring it back to 90’s girls, like Destiny’s Child.

Motorcycle Jacket
Try an unusual leather jacket like this, of a lighter hue, that opens up to appear like an elegant blazer. It’s more low-key than a traditional motorcycle jacket, but not as drab as an everyday blazer. A bigger fit will be more cool and slouchy, perfect when paired with a slinky bright body con dress, or with tight black jeans.

Varsity Jackets
Throwback to your first boyfriend’s old letterman jacket. These are super popular in the hip-hop world, and can give an otherwise elegant outfit like a maxi dress, an unusual mix of feminine and masculine. These look so badass on girls, and subtle details like drawstrings and buttons can make all the difference. Try it in an oxblood, introducing color in a low-key way.

 Ankle-Grazing Soft Trousers
Guys do this look with a pleated pant for a more business casual look. But on you, it looks casual chic and elegant. Wear it in a light silk or a thicker leather for colder months. Amazing transition piece to pair with ankle boots.

Fashion Looks To Steal From The Boys This Fall

1. Oxfords
A good classic oxford will be more valuable and wearable than any pair of heels you’ve ever owned. It’s grunge but classy and feminine but chunky; the perfect balance for fall footwear. An amazing androgynous staple that can be a classy shoe, or a casual one. An exaggerated toe modernizes it as does a distressed, colored wash.

2. Denim Button-Downs
This is such a versatile basic that you can wear year round. Wear it in a light chambray or a little thicker and play around with different washes. Style a vintage scarf in the pocket, and leave a couple of buttons undone to add some va-va-voom to the menswear basic.

3. Slouchy Harem Trousers
Harem pants are super versatile soft pants, and the drop crotch gives them an edgy look. Very comfortable, and a version of sweatpants that you can actually wear outside. Great for business, brunch, or a night out on the town, with strategic shoe choices. Try with a more fitted top, like a silk halter.

4. Beanie 
Play around with colors and patterns. Lightweight ones in cashmere look a little more classed up, while a thicker and chunkier knit will look a little more street wear inspired. Try a fuzzier one if you have straight hair, or a thin ribbed one if you want to cuff it for a tighter fit.

8 Certain Signs You’re With the Man You Should Marry

Are you dating the right guy? It’s hard to tell, especially when you’re stuck in relationships and don’t know what you want from your man. What are you looking for in your partner? Does he want to be with you forever and ever? Most women can’t find the right answers. But there are some tricks to tell if you’re ready to marry a certain guy.
Here is a list of qualities that you should pay attention on. These signs will help you to find out if you two are bound for life.

1. He’s a good teammate
Fighting for something together is always good than fighting with each other. You both can improve and inspire each other achieving your dreams. If you are a good team – be sure, he will be there for you whenever you need it.

2. He doesn’t try to change you
Even the silliest things you do seem cute to him. He won’t judge your unusual lifestyle and weird friends. He appreciates you for who you are and understands that you’re two completely different people with different past.

3. He cares about your family
You marry not only a person, you also marry his/her family as well. If he calls your parents with no effort, enjoys visiting them and easily gets along with them – this is the right guy. Pay more attention on the relationship between your family and your boyfriend and make the right decisions.

4. You’ve survived a long-distance relationship
This is great challenge for any couple. You love each other very much and believe everything is possible. You both are ready for necessary sacrifices, knowing everything will be ok when you get back together.

5. It’s OK for you to plan the future with him
You feel confident about it. The thought of spending the rest of your life together and having kids with him doesn’t scare you both and even gets you excited.

6. You trust each other and don’t have any secrets between the two of you
Trust is one of the most important qualities in a relationship. You don’t have to hide anything from your boyfriend. You can share any secret with him without feeling embarrassed. And you can be sure, he won’t judge you.

7. He appreciates spending time with you
Hanging out with a company of friends is always fun. But every healthy couple needs some quality time together. It helps you to fix some relationship problems or just enjoy spending time together without unnecessary audience.

8. He satisfies you in bed
This just can’t be ignored. Being sexually comfortable with each other means a lot. Also it’s important to talk openly about your sex life. That’s what makes a strong and long-lasting relationship.

One pot wonders: simple, warming, cook-ahead meals to feed a hungry family

Life is complicated enough without making a mountain out of a mealtime. Or so food writer Hattie Ellis has discovered. After years of happy singledom, she met and married her husband, Tim, in her early 40s and was catapulted into running a household that included three teenage boys. Even though she had spent her adult life testing recipes and exploring ingredients for a living, this was different. “Suddenly,” she recalls ruefully, “I was at the business end of cooking.”

Stews can be eaten on their own or used as a sauce for pasta or mashed potatosCREDIT: MARTIN TURZAK / ALAMY

Do I hear hollow laughter? Those of us who already cater for a family know the challenges. And Hattie’s solution is a time-honoured one, batch cooking dishes and concocting one-pots, combined with determination not to make feeding the hordes into a chore. “I still want to enjoy cooking and I find there are two corners in the week when I can put the radio on and make a stew, use the bones to make stock, some soup, a crumble, maybe a curry.”

Soups and stews can be made ahead and reheated for a quick and nutritious midweek mealCREDIT: TESSA TRAEGER

Now she has compiled the recipes into a book, The One Pot Cook, a collection she describes as “almost-ready-meals” that can be dished out throughout the week. Not every pot holds a complete meal – some, like the Peposo below, need a salad and potatoes – but the point is that they don’t need much else to make a good supper.

Add mashed potato, pasta, polenta or crusty bread to make a stew more substantialCREDIT: HELEN CATHCART

Adaptability is key. “Some dishes can be eaten on their own or as a side dish. And the leftovers are brilliant – so this works for single people as well as families.” 

Ingredients are not set in stone, either, as “people have different things they like in their fridge, or in their veg box”. The bottom line is that a good one-pot is a well-tempered dish, “not reliant on you being super accurate on timings or quantities”. It’s also great for showcasing cheap cuts of meat, and making them go further. Time, it turns out, is the magic ingredient. “The French make their coq au vin the day before, because the flavour molecules develop over time – like a curry. So cooking ahead isn’t just convenient – food tastes better for it, with time for the ingredients to meld together.”

Deliciously Ella's healthy Hallowe'en treats

As Hallowe’en approaches, now seems the perfect time to share some of my favourite autumnal sweet recipes. When the weather gets colder and the days shorten, I find I need an afternoon pick-me-up, and these treats are so comforting and delicious that I’d love you to try them too. 

The pumpkin bread, especially, is ideal for this time of year. The mix of soft pumpkin sponge, sweetened with maple sauce, tastes unbelievable. The texture of the bread is also great, as the crust is wonderfully crunchy while the inside is deliciously soft. It makes a lovely breakfast on a cold morning, a sweet dessert or a perfect afternoon snack. I love having a slice of it spread with a little coconut oil and honey, or if I’m feeling extra indulgent I’ll add a layer of the caramel dipping sauce from my popcorn recipe – it’s absolute heaven.

Popcorn with caramel dipping sauce was designed for cold, snuggly evenings on the sofa watching a movie. It’s easy to make, fun to eat and perfectly sweet. The sauce is made with dates, maple syrup, coconut sugar, coconut oil and cinnamon, and you can add a little water to thin it down. It tastes pretty spectacular and I have a feeling that you’ll drizzle it on just about everything you eat – and of course devour it straight from the bowl with a spoon! 

I toss the popcorn in a little coconut oil and coconut sugar so that it has a subtle flavour of its own, but it’s the dip that really makes it come to life. It’s tempting to pour the sauce all over your bowl of popcorn, but this quickly turns it soggy – and everyone wants crunchy popcorn – so try to resist the temptation. 

If you’re looking for a good trick-or-treat sweet for next weekend, go for these little vanilla-infused almond butter chocolates – they’re a real winner. Cunningly, they really don’t look or taste healthy at all, especially with the big dollop of creamy nut butter in the middle of each bite. I like using almond butter in mine, but peanut butter tastes great too. I also add vanilla powder and salt to my recipes as they really enhance the existing chocolatey, nutty flavours. 

All three recipes are pretty easy to make and will absolutely sate any sweet tooth. Hopefully they’ll make your Hallowe’en extra delicious too! 

Chopstick Fan

Thought the last few inventions were bizarre? Well, this one is just as wacky. The Chopstick Fan is no regular utensil. These utensils have a fan that will cool any hot foods. The fan comes in handy when there is no time to wait for your food to cool down. Turn on the fan while you eat for a cooling effect and lovely meal.

Napkins Pants

Napkin Pants are the next big things. Most people are too lazy to grab a paper towel, so they just wipe their hands on their pants. Wiping wet hands on your pants can cause discomfort. Now with the Napkin Pants, there is an area on the back thigh where hands can be dried without bringing you discomfort.

New and Style Baby Mop

The Baby Mop is a way to give your crawling baby chores without them knowing. These onesies have mop material on the forearms and forelegs. The baby then crawls and cleans the house for you, while you sit and relax. This innovative way of cleaning teaches your baby responsibility at a young age.

Panorama Hat

Is taking a panorama with your smart phone too difficult? Can't keep a steady hand dragging your smart phone to capture everything? Well, thanks to brilliant Japanese developers, there is a hat that will take panorama photos for you. This hat has cameras located all over the hat for the perfect panorama.